By Mike Barden
It's ok to ask this for yourself. Actually, it's crucial that you ask this for yourself!
What do you want in life?
Every important step that you take in your life will be defined by this single question. Your career, your relationships, and your own personal life hangs on how you answer this question. The first T in life TARGET is Thirst--your desire, your passion, what you most deeply want out of life.
Even Jesus asked it: "What do you want me to do for you?" (Matthew 20:32) Shouldn't he already know? Why would he ask someone that? It's because it is important that we KNOW what we really want, and it is important to SPECIFY what we want.
So why do we sometimes hesitate to answer this question, or even dare to ask it? Is it fear? Guilt? The concern that we've just made life "all about us"? That's my guess.
There is such a thing as a self-serving, self-centered lust for more and more. That is the wanting that never gives. The dysfunctional flower that sucks in all the light and rain it can get but never improves the soil, blooms, or produces fruit. If you have no life in you, that's what you'll do--want and take in and never give out. It's the kind of sickness that we see in destructive addictions and abuse.
On the other hand, if you freely receive and freely give, it's a beautiful thing (that's another thing Jesus said). It's how life works--a flow of taking in and giving back, then taking in more, than giving back more, and so on.
If you want to work in a place where you can be yourself instead of what "they" expect you to be, that's a good thing. Because in a place where you can be yourself, you will deeply contribute to the world around you. If you want to make food, the world needs someone who can make food. If you want to lead people, the world needs someone who can lead. If you want to make a zillion dollars, the world needs someone with a zillion dollars. You receiving what you desire makes you more valuable in the world. But if your life is sucked dry, you cannot contribute.
Killing your desire is not the goal; that is a religious counterfeit of self-discipline, as is described in Colossians 2:20-23:
Since you died with Christ to the basic principles of this world, why, as though you still belonged to it, do you submit to its rules: "Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!"? These are all destined to perish with use, because they are based on human commands and teachings. Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom, with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.
On the contrary, thirsting and seeking--wanting--is a good thing. Seek and you shall find, ask and it shall be given, knock and it will be opened, and all that. Just check to be sure your motivation is love, not lust.
So, what do you want? Go get it--and then be a great giver!
Mike Barden, Life TARGET Consultant, is the founder of Created For This, a revolutionary process that identifies a person's calling based on the "signs" within that person's life--their passion, their ability, their personality, their supernatural gifts and their most life-changing experiences. For more information, visit http://www.iwascreatedforthis.com , or email Mike at firstname.lastname@example.org