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Wednesday, June 11, 2008

What Are You Afraid Of?

By Tracy Crowe

Neale Donald Walsch, in his book "Conversations with God" (book 1) points out that "All human actions are motivated at their deepest level by one of two emotions- fear or love". He further points out that even our experience of love is based on fear. Our parents taught us that love is conditional. We are afraid of being rejected, of being banished. We do not know what unconditional love is. So we have assumed that God's love for us is conditional too. We have even gone so far as to invent an equally powerful being called the Devil so that there is a way for God's will, and love, to be thwarted. God points out in this same book "And, if you doubt God, you must live in fear and guilt all your life".

Most of us live in a constant state of fear, ranging from an uncomfortable feeling that all isn't quite right, to a nagging anxiety, to outright terror. We imagine the worst case scenario and we go to great lengths to prevent it from happening. A good example of this is that we spend so much time and energy talking about war, and what we can do about it; and comparatively very little time and energy talking about how we can create peace. We are focused on the negative, and then we wonder why so many bad things can be happening all around us. We take this as a sign that God is not looking out for us. But God is only confirming for us what we focus on and see as our reality. The truth is that the more you fight against something; are afraid of it, and say to yourself how awful it is, the more you are focused on it and affirming to yourself that it is real, and thus you are creating even more of what you don't want.

All behavior depends on the emotional state you're in. If you live in a state of fear, it affects not only your perceptions of what is going on around you, but also the actions you take. When you are fearful, you react to challenges, rather than being responsive to them. You feel pressured and quick to judge; annoyed and frustrated. You annoy other people, and usually bring out the worst in them. You are too overwhelmed or frustrated to see opportunities, and even if you do see them you are usually overcritical and negative. You think they are too risky or too beyond you. You focus on a whirlwind of thoughts that are passing through your mind, and the more you do the more tired you become and the worse you feel. You are dealing with your emotional reactions to the issue more than the issue itself.

In contrast, when you are not afraid, you are responsive to the challenge. You can stay focused and on purpose. You can see the heart of the matter and can differentiate between what is important and what isn't. You spot opportunities, and are more open to considering new options. You are more creative, more flexible and calm. You can see the bigger picture, and don't take things personally. You can spend your time and energy dealing with the actual issue. You don't spin your wheels or lose your bearings.

Fear is our biggest enemy, and perhaps the most difficult one to vanquish. The only way to conquer it is to believe in love. We must have faith that not only does God have the power to bring us everything we want, but also that each and every one of us are beings worthy of God's unconditional love. God really does want to give us anything we want, and is capable of doing so. All we have to do is believe in the power of God's love for us. Then there will be nothing to be afraid of.

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